Each of us is born with the same purpose: to become aware of ourselves as Spirit and to manifest our greatest good in the world as individuals. As parents, it is easy to lose sight of our children’s inner drive to become truly themselves as we try to teach them and keep them safe. Our expectations of who our children will become overshadow their own truth.
Conscious parenting requires seeing children for who they are – strong and capable Spirits – whether they are an infant in a crib or an inexperienced teenager. It means supporting them in what brings them joy and what they do well, even if it doesn’t suit our dreams for them. Teaching your child to connect to their inner wisdom (intuition) to guide them through life is one of the greatest tools for happiness that you can give them.
Kahlil Gibran’s words are a beautiful reminder:
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.