How Talking To Spirit Reshaped My Life

Talking to dead people became easier for me after losing my sister Terri to cancer 18 years ago. It was the first time I experienced the death of someone close to me.

I’ve always been psychic and sensitive, and I worked as a psychic consultant for years before she died. But her death encouraged my ability as a medium and my willingness to connect with Spirit for others.

Losing Terri was hard, but I see a gift in it now. I have a deeply personal understanding of loss and grief and beautiful experiences with her after she was gone. This allows me to help others who are going through the same thing.

People often seek a reading from me to ask obvious questions about the deceased. They want to know how or why their loved one died. Are they in pain? Where are they now? Was it them I heard, saw, felt, sensed?

These answers are helpful, but I learned that the best messages are about the living, not the dead. These unexpected gifts often inspire healing and personal growth that shows up in several ways and helps us carry on.

Validation

Seeing and feeling our loved ones after they’re gone is normal. It’s not just wishful thinking when we experience uncanny events. Spirit reaches out through different means, gives us signs, and intervenes on our behalf.

It often feels unnerving. Or magical. Either way, it definitely feels true. Clients often say, “You won’t believe this, but…”

I believe everything.

Encounters or synchronicities tied to someone we’ve lost are common. These unique and shared experiences validate our natural ability to recognize and connect with Spirit in different ways. Better yet, this firsthand knowledge that life doesn’t end at physical death encourages hope, purpose, and meaning.

Personal Growth and Meaning

My 90-year-old dad died at home in his sleep. The last years of his life were a tightening spiral of grandiose stories fueled by dementia about his knowledge and accomplishments.

A few days after he died, I sat talking to him aloud. I saw him in my mind’s eye as a light-hearted young man. He smiled and said, “Don’t worry, Jule.”

He looked and felt so happy and free, but more importantly, I had a physical sensation of “space” opening up in and around my body.

I suddenly understood I no longer needed to act “small” and downplay what I’d done with my life. I recognized freedom I didn’t know was missing.

While Dad was alive, I unconsciously agreed to let him be the smart one. In Spirit, he showed me I no longer need to dance around his life-long insecurity of not being smart enough. It’s ok to know more than him. I can embrace my accomplishments and surpass his wealth and experience. I’m free to be who I am.

Asking “why” and “how” about our loved ones naturally feels crucial, but the more important question is, what does this death mean for us? The relationship we have with that person is part of our spiritual lesson.

We are souls traveling together for a specific reason. How we experience their death allows us to reflect on our relationship with them in life. It evokes more profound questions. How did their life teach me? What did I learn?

Often, we are elevated by someone’s death into purpose and meaning. Just think of all the charitable organizations, benevolent projects, and inventions propelled into being to honor someone who died.

Or, we are freed up to become more of our true selves as energetic and emotional entanglements are released.

Process Grief

Grief is powerful. It overwhelms us emotionally, disrupts our capacity to think, and creates physical pain.

Psychically, I see the experience of grief as the absence or presence of a loved one’s energy in a client’s energy field or aura. They feel lost and ungrounded because their loved one’s energy is gone, changing their usual environment.

Or they hold on to the dead’s energy to heal and transform it. But it isn’t theirs to heal. After a loss, our energy, like our life, requires restructuring.

We’re all energetic beings. Talking with the dead brings these subtle but powerful connections into awareness. We can permit ourselves to release stuck places and find comfort to fill the void. Tapping into grief at this primary level speeds up emotional, mental, and physical healing.

Forgiveness

Guilt surrounds death.

I was wracked with guilt after Terri died — for not visiting more, not pushing her to get treatment, not finding answers for her. I carried her illness around in the form of depression until I was willing to forgive her for not fighting. And forgive me for being a mere human who couldn’t save her life.

The dead also regret things they did or feel guilty for leaving life with things undone. In Spirit, people express remorse for their behavior or for missing out on upcoming events.

Either way, a reading is an opportunity to be forgiven or to ask for forgiveness. Death brings understanding to both sides of the veil. Hearing and feeling forgiveness releases an emotional boulder of energy that keeps us stuck.

Talking to the dead is life-affirming. Problems resolve. Healing happens. When clients leave a reading, they are lighter and more convinced of their capacity to connect with their loved ones.

They know in their heart that love never dies.